Hmm, well it depends what you mean by love.
I'd say there are all sorts of levels of love. Level 2 might be the love you feel for a pet goldfish or a favourite flavour of crisps. Level 20 is the kind of love that inspires people to get engaged and write bad song lyrics. It's the levels in between that cause problems.
Don't get upset, but I reckon the Levels Theory (which, admittedly, I have just invented) makes it possible for boys to love at least two girls at once.
Most people will fall in love more than once in a lifetime. Some people do it more than once a year. But you love people different amounts - and for different reasons. One girl might have a big heart (levels 11-15); another might have a big swimming pool (levels 4-6).
All these levels make it quite common for boys to love exes and girlfriends and other people's girlfriends all at the same time. But there will always be one girl he loves more than the others. So it doesn't really matter, as long as that's the girl he's with.
You might argue that the lower levels of love (e.g. crisp love) aren't really love at all - and you might be right. But they could still feel like love. Ideally, you'll all meet boys that love you at level 20, making all other love incidental, but that rarely happens, and love levels take time to grow to there.
But to increase your chances, it wouldn't hurt to get yourself a swimming pool
Tuesday 22 July 2008
Saturday 19 July 2008
Why do boys do stuff with girls they don't really like?
Stuff. The most ambiguous word in the English language.
I wonder if you mean general stuff - like going to the cinema or playing Snap or breakdancing. If so, a boy wouldn't want to do these things with a girl he didn't like.
Playing Snap - for instance - is good, but it's better with someone you like. Otherwise your opponent would annoy you and lessen your enjoyment of the game and you'd want to throw cards at their head but couldn't because it would be inappropriate. That's pretty straight-forward.
Or are you talking about other kinds of "stuff" - like kissing and touching each other's legs? This is different.
Boys can wait for the right Snap partner to come along. But opportunities for "stuff" might not be so plentiful.
In fact, they might be so treasured that boys will snap up virtually every one they get. There's a term for this: desperate.
Plus, boys like girls in two very different ways: as people, and as objects. Even if we think a girl's an idiot, we'll happily put this to one side if they're an attractive object, for the sake of "stuff".
So we'll actually be doing "stuff" with the object, rather than the person. Shocking, I know.
So to sum up: a boy won't play Snap with someone he doesn't like, but he will let them touch his legs.
If you want to find out if a boy actually likes you as a person, challenge him to a game of Snap (or other general stuff) before doing "stuff" stuff.
If he's only after one thing: you can tell him to get stuffed.
I wonder if you mean general stuff - like going to the cinema or playing Snap or breakdancing. If so, a boy wouldn't want to do these things with a girl he didn't like.
Playing Snap - for instance - is good, but it's better with someone you like. Otherwise your opponent would annoy you and lessen your enjoyment of the game and you'd want to throw cards at their head but couldn't because it would be inappropriate. That's pretty straight-forward.
Or are you talking about other kinds of "stuff" - like kissing and touching each other's legs? This is different.
Boys can wait for the right Snap partner to come along. But opportunities for "stuff" might not be so plentiful.
In fact, they might be so treasured that boys will snap up virtually every one they get. There's a term for this: desperate.
Plus, boys like girls in two very different ways: as people, and as objects. Even if we think a girl's an idiot, we'll happily put this to one side if they're an attractive object, for the sake of "stuff".
So we'll actually be doing "stuff" with the object, rather than the person. Shocking, I know.
So to sum up: a boy won't play Snap with someone he doesn't like, but he will let them touch his legs.
If you want to find out if a boy actually likes you as a person, challenge him to a game of Snap (or other general stuff) before doing "stuff" stuff.
If he's only after one thing: you can tell him to get stuffed.
Saturday 12 July 2008
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